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Question: What to do about my asperger syndrom?

(Posted by: JEFF on 2010-02-09 10:05:29)

Know those people who just say they have ADHD, AS etc...... eaven though they don't. I know I have AS im 100 % sure, let me tell you why. My whole life I cant interact with people i cant make them laugh unless I make myself look stupid, I can never make friends. I also have this thing that my teachers tell me how I can come up with big words and I have many in my vocabulary, I still do this. I never had a friend in 4 years, i only do small talk at school like "how are you doing today ". I have never made my class laugh, never. I would like to be outgoing but I don't know what to say. Today I truly wanted to make people see me as funny and outgoing to I tried to say something humerus, it was super lame and awkward. I just don't know how to keep up a conversation between people, and whenever I try I make it really awkward by doing something very very stupid that I end up regretting I ever said. At first I thought that my social gap might have been ADD that's what I told myself for 3 years but it wasn't until recently that I found out it was AS. When I knew I had ADD i said that ill treat it as soon as I turn 18(im 16). because I don't want anyone who knows me to find out, i just dont. But when I read about AS it says that its better to treat it at a young age. So who do I see to help me with this and how much is it gonna cost me? I make scrap money so I hope that its cheap. Also can I sneak my parents insurence card that they have for me and use it while im 16 , I Then could pay for what insurence doesnt cover. Does insurence cover this kind of stuff? Please Help me!

Posted by: Xaws on 2010-02-09, 17:19:16

Hi there, I have Asperger Syndrome because the symptoms fit me perfectly and explain all the trouble I've been having with social situations all these years. I don't have an official diagnosis by a Psychologist/ Psychiatrist because where I live, it costs about $500, and no insurance is allowed... I know that social skills to an extent are important, and it's hard for us to fit in because people with ASDs are in the minority compared to NTs (Neurotypicals). You can try several methods of extending a conversation, like asking further questions about how they are, or what they enjoy doing. If there's something which you do that's related to what they like, then you can talk about it to them and I don't think they'd be annoyed about that. I think a very hard part in socializing for us Aspies/ Autistics is the joking and banter because we have the tendency to take things literally, or we analyze it so much that the joke loses its humour. If you seriously don't get along with your classmates at school even if you try very hard. I suggest you take a volunteering job if you have time. It'll allow you to develop new skills, and it'll slowly teach you how to get along with other staff and customers. At the very least, you'll learn over time how to "appear polite " to others in a professional situation, which will certainly help you in the future when you have your actual paid job.