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Question: Can someone help me out here please. i used to have a pretty good outlook on life, good social skills?

(Posted by: LEFT on 2009-02-17 04:01:37)

Knew how to have a laugh and a joke with people in person and my family around me..However in Sept last year I got involved with someone online and it has all gone down hill since. He used to trigger deep conversations off about life, religion, relationships. We could speak for hours at a time and i'd get so engrossed in talking to him I kind of switched off to everything and everyone else. However he had a habit of pulling me up all the time and pointing out my negative traits instead of complimenting me on things yet he would go off and tell other women how beautiful they were and how much he loved them for all the right reasons. We had been planning to meet in person but something didn't seem right so I told him he doesn't make me feel worthy enough because he treats me different to other women and pulls me down instead of making me feel good about myself. Now i'm left bewildered by it all thinking he may have a point. I've kind of isolated myself away from everyone I don't find jokes amusing anymore and i've lost trust in other people who I did consider to be friends because of the things this guy used to say in the conversations we had. I am really struggling to find anything positive about myself and just don't know where to turn for help.

Posted by: Snow on 2009-02-17, 04:33:22

Hey Left.....Shake off that dead skin....it was just getting in the way !! Some snake never can do anything but crawl on there belly's.....That jerk doesn't deserve you....he's not good enough......he's a joke as a man.... some people have to pull other people down to their level...when they can't see over the edge of the sidewalks..... Shake the dew off the grass.....and get back into action!! Look, you can do this.....Everyone falls down a hill...at least once in life...this was yours~.....You got really lucky......You didn't see the dune bug who isn't good enough for you to meet in the first place !! Just from what you wrote.....you spent about 5 months talking to this*** thing`.... Let's look at it.....Thank God it was just 5 months.....and not 5 years !! I know it seems like your whole life was wrapped up in this.....and it's going to feel that way for a while.....but, you can do this !!! This is a ` do-over`....go spend some time with your family and go see some of your friends......Go Out !! That means ...get up...throw some clothes on...let your Cute self shine in the sun.....and let every one know your back in the real world !! I, for one...am very glad you're safe !! And, if you need to keep talking about what you are going through......We are here !!

Posted by: jess on 2009-02-17, 04:10:06

This guy sounds like a very bad influence. Please do NOT meet him he sounds nuts. If you are young please tell your parents. Get out and mix with other people your age, go to a sports centre or something let off a bit of steam. Do not be put down by this guy.

Posted by: Dale M on 2009-02-17, 04:15:02

You did the right thing by dumping him, now you just have to get your confidence back. Just look at it as a lesson learned and that there are good people out there too. You have to look at the positive things in your life and focus on them instead of beating yourself up over what this jerk said. You realized this guy was a jerk so you must still have some confidence to be able to break away. Get back on the horse and do what you enjoyed doing before, if that's what made you happy before then you can be happy again. Counseling probably would help too. Goo luck.

Posted by: Julianna G on 2009-02-17, 04:21:48

This guy does not sound very nice you can stay with him btu set soem standards and speak with him personally and let your heart otu about everything it sounds like he is also making you depressed and angry on the inside