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Posted by: Jerry on 2009-09-17, 21:02:30
IDK. Google: "children; special needs; grief; resources; perth; au " Some suggestions, and resources follow: See: cmha.ca/ bins/ content_page.asp?cid= 284-1007-1110-1111-1144 &lang= 1 Call: The Grief Recovery Institute (U.S.A.) 1-800-445-4808, or Hospice (phone book). Email jo@samaritans.org Chatrooms and forums: chatmag.com/ topics/ health/ grief.html and talkingminds.15.forumer.com and messageboards.ivillage.com Other websites: griefnet.org and helpguide.org and mental-health-abc.com and boblivingstone.com/ ?q= node30 and crusebereavementcare.org.uk There is a grief support group at: dailystrength.org Also try Groups, at Myspace.com and Yahoo.com & Google.com At mind.org.uk type "grief " in the taskbar, and enter. Helping others grieve, and helping children grieve are some topics at: crisiscounseling.com/ TraumaLoss/ 1TraumaLossGrief.htm Understand that there are often several stages of grief. Those stages are: Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening. " Anger: "Why ME? It's not fair?! " (either referring to oneself, anybody, or anything perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible ") Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate. " Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything? " Acceptance: "It's going to be alright. Growth: Grief is a chance for personal growth. For many people, it may eventually lead to renewed energy to invest in new activities and new relationships. Some people seek meaning in their loss and get involved in causes or projects that help others. Some people find a new compassion in themselves as a result of the pain they have suffered. They may become more sensitive to others, thus enabling richer relationships. Others find new strength and independence they never knew they had. After the loss, they find new emotional resources that had not been apparent before. Kübler-Ross also claimed these steps do not necessarily come in order, nor are they all experienced by all patients, though she stated a person will always experience at least two. See amazon.com/ for books on the various stages. Professional advice is to set aside 5 - 10 mns daily, and during that time, focus on all the memories and feelings involved. If you are sad; cry. If you are angry; punch a pillow. At the end of that time, go on with other things, and if such thoughts or memories come to mind, just write them down in a notebook for the next day's session. This may well accelerate the grieving process. After a while, consider making a photoalbum/ scrapbook and/ or a shrine, in remembrance, and set aside; say; one day every month, perhaps on a significant date, (for example; the 17th, or the second thursday) on which to reflect. Many religious organisations offer counselling, or you may feel more comfortable with a therapist, to express your thoughts, and feelings. Journalling may help in this. Celebrate that life; be thankful for the experience, and remember the good times. Practice a relaxation method, daily, and when needed, such as: altmedicine.about.com/ cs/ mindbody/ a/ Meditation.htm it enables awareness, and a way of being, without emotional suffering, and helps you through the more difficult times in life. Suggested Resources on Grief and Mourning: Livingstone, B. (2002). Redemption of the Shattered: A Teenager's Healing Journey through Sandtray Therapy, boblivingstone.com ~~~ Beyond Grief: A guide for recovering from the death of a loved one; New Harbinger Productions Inc. 5674 Shattock Ave, Oakland, CA 94609 Phone: 1-800-784-6273 ~~~ James, J. W. & Friedman, R. (1998). The Grief Recovery Handbook, Collins. ~~~ Grollman, E. (1995). Living when a Loved One has Died, Beacon Press. ~~~ Livingstone, B. (Planned August, 2007). The Body-Mind-Soul Solution: Healing Emotional Pain through Exercise, Pegasus Books. ~~~ |
